There’s a popular saying in English ‘Fake it till you make it‘. Now, many of us wondering there is a negative word FAKE and that implies scam, fraud, lying, or deception things like that. Although, faking doesn’t mean that one is lying or making false claims that can’t deliver. As it completely depends on the mindset of the person how they are perceiving it and understanding this statement and at some point where a person has slow esteem then the other quote which is comparable to this is ’Believe it till you achieve it’ mantra can be used.
Ever caught in a situation where you are speculated to speak up about something and you are just too afraid and feared that you hesitate to do so and you think that you can’t do this but suddenly you just trick your mind to do it and everything will be okay. Yeah, so this is how faking it works. We all do lie every day and then say lying isn’t a good habit? There’s also a saying that it isn’t lying if it’s for the benefit of others or yourself and in my opinion if it is for the good sake of yourself do lie or fake and that is how life is! Does that 50% sales or no chemicals added or sugar used or contains fresh and raw material are they all not lying? But if we glance deeper in a technical way then the answer is they aren’t lying because they use the tactics to make our brain understand the thing.
Benefits of “Fake it till you make it”
From our childhood we are taught by our teachers, parents, and society how to speak, eat, act, and study always being their puppets and mold yourselves according to what they have said to us. The thing is that we are never allowed to being yourselves and have that self-portrayed image to impress everyone out and that same process continues throughout our lives. Many of us want to escape from the reality and set a world where we become someone entirely different from what we always want to become.
When you focus on yourself that what the real you come out breaking all the barriers that have been put throughout your lives and faking for the sake of your happiness and good is more importantly a self-therapy. Give yourself a personality and a good external environment that also really affects your thinking ability.
Open visual communication and voice controlling while faking it takes time these are the keys to change oneself. The more you practice these things more you become natural to it then one can know how and where to use these tools and that is what transforms a person.
Also read: 10 key habits of optimistic people
Does it works everytime?
The fact that more real people fail due to it because of these reasons
- Force themselves that they can fake it but it doesn’t work out or the thing they do is start doubting themselves out and then tends to move backward from their goal or they think fake too much what they are. The results are not too fast one needs to be patient and move step by step but people are impatient that they took one step ahead and then one backward which doesn’t reach out to any result.
- Who you are and who you become sometimes people don’t know what they are doing and why they are doing it. Most people expect that they become something overnight but that is not possible the first start realizing your worth give time and importance to oneself and focus on the things that help them to improve more is a way one can start again.
- It’s always better to fake it than to pretend that actually, you know something strike the balance between real and fake and see how things work out.
The success mantra is always to look at what’s working rather than what isn’t and ignore it and focus on what things working for you. Once you develop this habit you see changes strategically. But don’t fake to an extent where the other person caught you instantly.
When and how to implement?
- Confidence- The most important thing that a person requires is enough confidence in oneself. The way we see ourselves is the way others going to see us. Become the best version of ourselves that’s where one starts to gain and build confidence, talk, and reach out to people. Great entrepreneurs, actors, and businessmen develop these qualities to become what they are today and you can too.
- Be realistic- Live in your present and for future, plan, and plot for your upcoming events how to strategize and set goals for it. Become the version of YOU, that you want to become.
- Good at pretending things- Sometimes pretending and faking things out can be helpful as one can be pessimistic and narcissist.
- Fakes interest- The fake interests you show to others and yourself sometimes really got up your mood to work on that more than usual. Pretends you are not interested in it sometimes can benefit you.
Should we fake it?
If we look in deeper meaning we see that there aren’t certain psychological facts behind this. It is just a mere fact that people usually use to trick their brains out so that they can encounter and face challenges. Sometimes there are positive effects of it’s and negative too. As it depends on how one convinces their brain to work and think in that desired way.
People think that controlling their emotions and feelings will make them productive and not distracted different people. They tend to bounce their feelings back which is not a growth, do the work you love. Faking accurately isn’t being called fake. Sometimes it is about changing your interests in things rather than to be trying to see how others see that.
"It takes two people to lie, one to lie and the other to listen"- Homer Simpson
Faking every time isn’t worth it but still, it is a great strategy in the present scenario if one wants to be happier. As also luck doesn’t work every time in the race of faking we forgot who we are. Do it with the right tactics so that one doesn’t fall into its trap. In the long run, one needs to be presumed and fake till you are in a state where there is a win-win situation.
Faking or characterization are the things that help you to change the world where one presumes themself to be different from actually what they are. When you realize and break the barriers in your life it was not about faking it, but realize that a new person was just inside you all along. Faking or acting is the real natural thing that one can do.
“Don’t fake it till you make it, fake it till you become it”